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THE BONDAGE OF REGRET

8/23/2022

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I am blessed to have freedom from food obsession.  My recovery is such a miracle and I cherish every abstinent day as a true gift.  I work the steps.  I pick up the tools.  I do service.  And I am so grateful that I will never progress beyond being human. 
 
I wanted to write about something that has really been bugging me for over a year for our Board blog today.  If you know me, you know that much of my life outside of recovery is all about dogs!  What I’ve been struggling with is how I can make amends to my beloved dog Harlow that I lost last year.  I know Harlow doesn’t mind that relieved her from the suffering of cancer, but it’s been plaguing me.  It is not well with my soul.  The regret I feel from letting her go sooner, rather than later, is taking up too much space in a not good, unhealthy way in my being.  I need to write a blog for the Board, so why not write about this?  I am certain another member may benefit from my processing this out loud with our fellowship.
 
Harlow was never a healthy dog.  Back in 2010, I was her fifth home in her first seven months of life.  She was a difficult dog to say the least.  It took her a year to trust me fully, no matter how many times I tried to show her and tell her that she had won the lottery when I found her.  Harlow had found her home with me, and she was never going to need to find another.  The year before I had to put her down, she was very sick with a horrible skin infection.  I tried many different treatments, and finally found one that worked, but she was probably sick ten out of the twelve months in 2020. 
 
Nevertheless, even with her history, it was a terrible surprise to come home from a wonderful birthday trip to find her not being able to get up.  She seemed to be in a great deal of pain internally when we tried to assist her.  After many hours we managed to get her in to the veterinarian, many tests were run and then we had to wait for results.  The next day, although wobbly, she was able to get up, and able to walk.  She was on some pretty heavy-duty medications and they seemed to be working.
 
When the test results showed she had cancer, because of this wonderful Fellowship and program, I could handle such devastating news with dignity and grace.  I asked my Higher Power, and all of you, to help me to accept this horrible thing that I could not change.  My husband and I discussed for days at length our options, my concerns, and most importantly, what we felt was best for Harlow.
 
This blog is not about the loss of my beloved pet.  It’s about how our program helps us in life because it’s been my experience, even in recovery, life keeps happening!  And I need help with all of life’s happenings if I am to stay abstinent and in recovery.  I gladly live life differently, on life’s terms, and not on my self will run riot.  Before recovery life’s happenings were unmanageable.  The only coping mechanism I had was to overeat, eat compulsively, bite off people’s heads, and be just a miserable person to be around.  I made the decision to let Harlow go because I could not stand to watch her suffer.  Whatever cancer she had was eating her sustenance as she was wasting away quickly right before our eyes no matter how much food I gave her.  She was ravenous and eating constantly but losing what seemed to be at least a pound a day.  I couldn’t have my sweet girl suffer, and honestly, I was afraid I would be alone, too, the next time she couldn’t get up.
 
When I finally noticed just how much I was very NOT at peace, even a year after she was gone, I could finally hear my Higher Power suggesting that I work this out so that I can be free from the bondage of regret.  It did not matter that every other person who knew Harlow told me I did the right thing by letting her go.  My addict brain keeps telling me that I was a coward.  That I chose the easy way out for me.  I should have taken better care of her and let her stay longer.  My dis-ease is alive and well and wants to hold me hostage in the bondage of regret. 
 
My recovery is strong, my Higher Power is stronger, and I have tools to combat the negative self-talk.  I can share this struggle at meetings.  I can work this out in the steps.  I can discuss this with my sponsor, and my counselor.  I can write a blog about it.  When I use the tools of our program, this lie loses its power, until I can sit in the truth.  The truth is, I loved my girl Harlow.  I am not a coward.  I am brave and I found the courage to do the hard, right thing.  I cry now as I sit here and type this, and I can feel the love, understanding and peace of our program growing in me, one day at a time.
 
Thanks for letting me share. 

Laurie A. - Region One

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ALL ABOUT HOPE

5/19/2022

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​Before I came into OA, I had no hope.  I also had no self-esteem, no self-worth, nor any real purpose or drive.  I had no idea I had a disease or that I was a compulsive eater.  I loved learning why I couldn’t “will” myself to be different.  I have loved learning to develop a power greater than myself that helps me to have freedom from food compulsion.  I rely on this power, who I choose to call my Higher Power, to get me through each day in a way so much different than I could have ever imagined. 
 
I often say at meetings that what keeps me coming back is all these character defects. I am never going to get over them, and I need to use all the tools every day to manage them.  But I’ve learned that’s not entirely true.  I keep coming back because in our fellowship is where I have hope.  Every day, going to meetings, picking up our literature, developing my food plan, doing my nightly inventory--these are the things my hope is derived from.  I know now that if I do today what I did yesterday I will continue to stay abstinent and continue to like myself.  Abstinence is the root of my recovery.  Without it, I am running on self-will run riot.  I am miserable and afraid and hopeless.
 
I keep coming back because I have hope to keep getting better.  I have hope to NOT rely on those nasty character defects to get me through situations, but to rely fully on a power greater than myself to get me through everything.  And if I need an audible connection, I have hope that I’ll make a reach-out call and allow my Higher Power to speak through you, one of my amazing fellows.
 
Hope has inspired me to be of service.  Carrying the message of recovery, working with rescue dogs and their organizations, and volunteering to help protect our public lands and waters is very rewarding, uplifting and energizing.  You could say that being of service has built up my self-esteem.  Being of service, believe it or not, has also taught me self-care.  Or was that my Higher Power...? 😊
 
Being kind and tolerant of those I don’t agree with is a miracle of our program.  I have experience and hope that when I work with my Higher Power, I can accept people, places and things I could never have imagined.  It feels good to be kind in those difficult moments.  I have hope that I will grow in those moments!  All I need to do is to rely on a power greater than myself. 
 
One of my favorite things I've learned recently is that if I stay in the hope, I stay out of the fear.  Much in the same way that if I stay in the gratitude, I stay out of the negative thoughts.  I have hope that I can choose recovery.  And when I am weak, I have you all, always.  You are all just a phone call or text away.  I know you will listen.  I have hope you’ll understand.  I am amazed at the love and peace I can find in our program and in our fellowship.
 
This hope isn’t a flimsy reed.  From the Big Book (page 28) “What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, 'a design for living' that really works.”  

​I am willing to go to any lengths to keep this hope, my abstinence and sanity.  Oh gosh, the sanity, that’s a whole other blog!  My recovery gives me hope and let that be the message I carry today and always.  There is hope for the still suffering compulsive overeater.  It works, if we work it, and we’re worth it!
 
Thanks for reading and allowing me to be of service.  Much love to you.
 
Laurie A. - Region One

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A NEW WAY OF LIFE FOR ME

11/4/2021

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OA offers me a different way to live, if I choose. 

It gives me a response to things that "go wrong" (according to me) and allows me to realize that changing others is not my responsibility or obligation. 

What a relief!  All I have to work on is controlling my reaction to what is happening.  This is a LOT less work than trying to "fix" things for others. 

Things happen on HP's timeline.  Things always work out in the end, if they have not worked out yet, it is not the end.

Terri R. - Central Oregon Intergroup
​Guest Blogger

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IF I COULD TELL YOU ONE THING...

9/10/2021

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This workshop was part of our 2020 OA Region One Convention on Zoom and included two speakers, a writing prompt with writing for ten minutes, sharing in small group breakout rooms, and sharing as a large group at the end of the workshop. For each question, participants were asked to put their “one thing” in the chat.  Here (with only minimal editing) are their responses to our three "Just One Thing" questions.
 

One thing I have done to bolster my recovery in 2020:
  • Willingness to use Zoom
  • Attended lots of different meetings across the country as we are able to attend meeting virtually.
  • Went to an OA Rise meeting.
  • honestly saying "I don't know" and being teachable
  • I started a virtual meeting
  • agreed to be a temporary sponsor, which opened a lot of doors
  • "Balance" (more of it in life)
  • studied the principle of the traditions once a month
  • Doing Step 10 from Big Book - spot checking throughout the day, not just at night, I became aware of the sixth sense and intuition. This is the voice of HP.
  • I make a choice everyday which road I am choosing to take 1/ the path to recovery abstinence living joyous and free or 2/ control, overeating, despair and suffering
  • Setting Boundaries
  • Getting a sponsor
  • Attended Zoom meetings out of state.
  • Making 3 or more outreach calls every day.
  • Hosting virtual workshops
  • began sponsoring
  • Working the first 3 steps with sponsees.
  • Learn to surrender to my Higher Power.
  • More exercise. Discovering an online gym.
  • Working with a sponsor to keep accountable so that I keep moving forward with my Ninth Step work
  • Joined the Step 10/11 train which is a group of women who get paired up for two weeks and call each other with their inventories.
  • Also to join Step 10/11 train, you can email [email protected]. There is an orientation meeting you'll need to attend first.
  • listened to my instinct in asking for a particular person to be my sponsor.
  • realizing I am a food addict and that changed everything
  • Made a decision to live (a healthy life) rather than continue to compulsively overeat.
  • Coming to this Convention.
  • getting "back to basics" with my program...asking what wirjs? and doing that
  • Acting on any small willingness that came to me
  • Meditation walk daily
  • Lots of shares about steps 10, 11 and 12
  • Attend or facilitate a 12 Step workshop from the green workshop guide
  • More service
  • Started a Step Study using the 12 Step Study and Workshop
  • Facilitated a Virtual Step Study using the 12 Step Workshop and Study guide of OA (Green spiral)
  • Sponsoring a newcomer very different from me with food and HP issues
  • Even with COVID, I can still attend my Yuma meeting and see my Yuma OA’ers even if I am not going this year.
  • I took on new service position
  • Worked the steps with my first ever step sister from 20+ years ago and together we used the green workshop book. It was amazing. I also started using a meditation app twice daily.
  • 3 meals 1 day at a time with nothing but life in between. My choice is to be in recovery.
  • acceptance of necessity of shutting down, vs winter travel to warm places, of needing to scale back on risky activities (mountain climbing, skydiving) that also help with weight maintenance, willingness to give up diagnosed food allergens, break with family of origin. Willingness, acceptance, surrender, life on life's terms... etc...
  
Just one thing I would say to a newcomer that might be helpful to them, OR one thing that really helped ME as a newcomer:

  • wanna temporary sponsor?
  • don't do this alone
  • Welcome Home
  • Go to as many meetings as possible.
  • go to a Virtual newcomer meeting
  • find a 12 day sponsor
  • slow down and KISS! (Keep it Simple, Sweetie!)
  • You're not alone, here's my number, keep coming back.
  • This is an addiction and needs to be treated seriously.
  • grab a sponsor guide
  • Try at least 6 meetings
  • listen for your story in others shares
  • There is no one right way to do the program. Keep coming back until you find what works for you.
  • it works if you work it
  • ask for a glossary for all the acronyms
  • Don't give up because the program doesn't make sense at first...keep going to meetings, get a sponsor who can guide you through it.
  • Put yourself in the middle of the herd so that you create connections and break the isolation!
  • Take what you want and leave the rest.....p.s. we do pick up more as we keeping coming back.
  • Try the “New to OA” meeting every Saturday at 6PM through Oregon Intergroup.
  • oa.org - find a virtual meeting
  • Let go of defiance; and remember you have a choice; you don't HAVE to do anything; you are choosing to do this!
  • you are welcome you are deserving you are special and you are not alone
  • tradition 3, together we get better
  • It's a we program!
  • It's ODAT, I don't give up eating a certain food for the rest of my life, but for today, I choose not to eat it.
  • let us love you  until you love yourself
  • Here's my phone number, you're very welcome to call.
  • Get a sponsor
  • Keep a journal from day 1 to reflect on as you go through your program.
  • the only way you fail is to leave
  • OA is the "Good Clean Plate Program" at a buffet of ideas.  Take what you want, and leave the rest. However, you might consider taking what you need and leave the rest.
  • know that you can't do it wrong ❤
  • a desire to stop eating compulsively is the only requirement
  • this is a rough time to join a fellowship. congratulations on your bravery. keep coming back.
  • Ask someone if they would like a temp sponsor!  it helps!
  • Give yourself some grace while learning the lingo and ask questions if you don't understand!
  • A sponsor helps in working the 12 Steps and progressing in your recovery. It is okay to ask for a sponsor, even if you are new.
  • bring your journal to meetings to take notes for recovery tips!
  • Keep coming back and keep trying new things, even if abstinence eludes you.
  • Join a Step Study Group
  • life will change, the world will change, you will change over the long haul. but this can be the thread of your life....
  • go to oaregion1.org/sponsorship.html to get a sponsor
  • Ask someone to take you through the Newcomer's First 12 Days.  (Let newcomers know about this resource. 12 Days may seem do-able to a newcomer and make it easier to start.)
 
One thing I would like to commit to adding to my program for the rest of 2020:

  • 30 meetings in 30 days....30 phone calls in 30 days...30 meditations in 30 days.  Set up a calendar for whatever you decide to do 30 days on!  Keep it Simple.  :)
  • More meditation...walking meditation
  • A E I O U 10th Step:   a = abstinence    e = exercise   I = what I did for myself   o = what did I do for others   u = what was uncomfortable (more classic 10th step)  (some people add “Y” for Yahoo’s/Gratitudes) to the above format
  • Begin looking at the Principles of the Steps/Traditions/Concepts
  • Go to a meeting in every state / every province / why not in other countries?
  • Ask for willingness, then act on it as soon as it comes!
  • look at my food plan.  Not perfection, but ask my sponsor if I can start committing my food.  Or, find a food plan partner.
  • I felt JOY at the idea of attending meetings in other countries -- I'm going to start doing that!
  • oa region 9 can take you to Europe meetings
  • Make outreach calls on a weekly basis
  • really committing to an action plan, including being more open to service.
  • continue project -- catch myself in being negative toward myself. work on this and make more progress.
  • start a daily practice that supports my well-being for the day -- commit to making this a more regular, daily thing each morning
  • Have been working on my action plan.  Have made an action plan surrounding food plan, which helps me eat more regularly and on time. This helps me with daily routine.
  • reach out to newcomers. call out and be humble and real
  • Daily 3:00 tea time when depression sets in.
  • I want to commit to loving myself fiercely for the rest of the year. Being kind to myself.
  • Wake up and say I'm glad to be alive and today I'm going to be excited!
  • I would tell newcomers that OA has taught me tons of new tools to live my life free of food addiction, obsession, and shame.
  • So grateful for this experience. All the best to you for the next 24
  • I love this banquet of ideas and the fact you set it up to record commitments in chat!!!
  
Thank you to everyone for your amazing shares!

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IT IS ALL ABOUT THE WEIGHT

7/19/2021

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In Step One of the OA 12&12 (The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous) it talks about believing my weight was the cause of my chronic unhappiness. I wrote in the margin of the book, “My chronic unhappiness is the cause of my obesity.” That was so very true when I first came to the program ten years ago. It took coming to OA and working the steps for me to uncover the driving forces behind my compulsive eating. I'm now grateful for my fat because it brought me here with enough desperation to be willing to go to any lengths to lose the weight – and so I have, in large measure.

I no longer carry the weight of trying to please everyone, I'm free of the heavy burden of feeling I am a failure, I've dropped the pounds of shame and resentment I always carried on my back, and have lost the ton of guilt over my angry outbursts.  I still have some hefty, emotional luggage I'm carrying around, but a huge weight has been removed from my daily living. I do feel the Sunshine of the Spirit bathing me in light and lightness.

When I concentrated on my size and weight I was unable to stop eating.  Now, as long as I stay within my Higher Power's will, my eating is for fuel and pleasure and I can leave the results up to the one who carries the weight of my whole life in his strong arms.


Mollie R., Idaho – Guest Blogger

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TWENTY-FIVE YEARS OF FREEDOM FROM BULIMIA

6/21/2021

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When I was a child, the adults in my life let me down so many times that I stopped trusting them. All of them. I always believed in God, in a power that guides us and wants what's best for us, but each time another imperfect human betrayed me or hurt me, I was sure it was because I must have done something to cause God to turn his back on me. It seemed that no matter what I did, I could not win God's favor.
 
By the time I found program, I was suicidal. I had spent so many years using my eating disorder to keep my feelings at bay, while working endlessly to prove my worth and earn my place in the world. I was exhausted. I could not keep doing what I was doing, but I did not know any other way to live; I was out of ideas. The darkness began to envelop me. I could see only one way to stop the pain. Then something miraculous happened—a small voice inside told me not to give up, and I somehow found the courage to reach out for help.
 
I was in the hospital for only ten days, but those ten days saved my life. It was there that I learned about the Twelve Steps and about Overeaters Anonymous. I attended my first meeting. Something began to shift. A door that had been slammed shut began to open. I began to see that my Higher Power had been with me through everything, putting people in my life when I needed them. I had been too hurt and too afraid to accept the help that was offered.
 
I wish I could tell you that I got a sponsor right away and worked the steps. That is not my story. After I left the hospital, a year and a half passed before I found myself in my second OA meeting, and then it took me two years to ask someone to be my sponsor. She had what I wanted and I was ready to go to any lengths to get what she had. She was calm and serene. Even when life was throwing lemons at her, she trusted her Higher Power completely. When things didn't go "her way," she didn't run from her feelings. She felt them, felt compassion for herself. She got quiet, asked for guidance, and did the footwork. She looked for her part, and trusted her Higher Power to walk with her as she took the next correct action. I wanted what she had and I was willing to risk trusting someone other than myself. As we worked through the steps, my trust in her grew, as did my trust in my Higher Power.
 
OA gave me so many opportunities to trust my fellows and to let go of expectations. I practiced in these rooms, and then in all of my affairs.  Before OA, I saw people with a fearful heart; now I see people with a kind and loving heart.
 
I found a solution in the Twelve Steps and I surrendered to my Higher Power with complete abandon. I did the work and learned to trust the world again. My heart is open and I know with my entire being that my life does not need to be justified. Or earned. It is a true miracle and I am grateful every day.
 
I celebrated 25 years of freedom from bulimia this year. The road has been long and winding, yet I do not regret what I had to face, or the process, with the loving guidance of my Higher Power, because today I feel more joy and more happy days than I ever dreamed possible. All because I chose to take a chance and dare to trust again.

​If you are afraid, OA is here for you. We can help you learn to trust again. All you have to do is find the courage to ask.
 
Alice W. – Region One


SPECIAL FOCUS OA MEETINGS:  OA welcomes all who want to stop eating compulsively, and offers many special focus meetings:  100 Pounders, Anorexic/Bulimic, Bariatric Surgery, Black, Health Issues, LGBT, Men, Women, Young Persons.  Any OA member may attend any OA meeting, regardless of special focus.  To find a special focus meeting:
  • go to Find a Meeting 
  • select a type of meeting (face-to-face, online, telephone, or non-real-time)
  • click on "additional search options" and select the desired special focus

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MY PLACE OF PEACE

6/7/2021

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This morning, I woke up feeling sad, close to tears.  Why?  I don’t know; I can’t identify anything that’s happening in my life that would bring me to sadness.   As I tried to figure out my feelings, a lot of old and recent hurts and resentments started to flood my brain, and I knew that I had to change my thinking immediately. 
 
Step One: I admit that I am powerless over food and this feeling and my life has become unmanageable. 
 
Step Two: I believe that only a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity. 
 
Step Three: I’m deciding right now to turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I understand God.  
 
I prayed:  "Dear God, tell me what to do next."  And I got my answer.  I knew that I had to go to my physical place of peace and let God be within me. 
 
My place of peace, the place that always bring me closer to God, calms me, and allows me to immerse myself in the present, is a bird sanctuary quite close to my home.  As I walked the paths, I heard God in the birds, in the ruffles and ripples of the creeks that run through the sanctuary, and in the wind in the trees.  I felt the presence of God, and as I lifted my eyes to the mountains, I knew that I am indeed loved by God.  I knew that everything is just as it should be at this precise moment. 
 
I was refreshed and ready to face the sadness head on by reaching out to another compulsive overeater and tackling the service commitments I’ve made to my service groups, family and friends. 
 
And I am at peace.  I am smiling.  I know that I’m okay and God not only has my back, but also my present and my future. 
 
 
Paula Z. - Region One 

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